Is my relationship unhealthy?

Subject: Confused

Message: I feel like I’m madly in love with my boyfriend. I have a problem though. My parents along with others are saying he isn’t healthy. I admit he is a bit controlling and it does get out of hand sometimes. He isn’t religious but he said he will go to church but he is very reluctant and I’m almost embarrassed to take him because he cusses. I have also noticed I’m changing my values and life goals. I also feel tied to him because I lost my virginity to him. Please pray for me. Will this turn out to be a good thing? Advice please!

Response: Thanks so much for writing to us. I think your subject line says a lot…”confused.” It sounds like you know what’s important to you and what you want, and it also sounds like this guy doesn’t share those values at all. When you find the right person for you, it shouldn’t be confusing and challenging…it should feel right. God didn’t create us for difficult relationships; He created us for love, and control is not love. ..people who love us want us to have freedom to be our own person. People who would control us and not value our opinions do not have our best interest at heart. Will be praying for you…I think God is whispering to your heart…listen to that voice.